With our recent global situation of Social Distancing I have become increasingly aware of my time. The first week I was busy organizing my Live Stream yoga classes, getting food supplies, getting my nutritional supplements, and getting my own workouts in. After I got everything set up I took a moment to pause and reflect on the situation.
No longer do I have to rush from one place to the next. No longer do I have be in my car so much. No longer do I wish I had time for a workout, to read a book or to take a long bath.
I took notice of what was really happening. I no longer felt rushed. I no longer felt the pressure to get everything done in one day. I began to feel my life expanding. I noticed that although this is a trying time and how different my daily life has become, I have been given an incredible gift.
The Gift Of Time.
We have all been given this gift.
So much time has been given back to us. All that time on the road is non-existent, and for some us, we are not spending more than half of our day at work. We are creatures who are slaves to our schedules and demands. So what do we do when that is all taken away? What do we do with all this time?
We take a moment to pause. To breathe and expand ourselves in this space. To understand that this is a gift that will only be here for a little while. We have been given the time to spend with our family, to talk on the phone to our friends, to take up a hobby, to clean out our closets, to get those house projects done, to exercise, to cook, to sleep, to meditate, to journal and so much more.
What will you do with this precious gift?
We must shift our way of thinking away from what has been taken away from us and instead, embrace this gift of time.
The past 14 months have been filled with many life altering
changes for me. Each change has shaken my foundation and pushed me out of my
comfort zone. From moving to Northern California, leaving my
friends/family/job, starting at a new gym for a year then losing that job, to learning
how to make new friends as an adult. All of these changes and more have left me
feeling like a fish out of water. As difficult and as painful/challenging that
these changes have been, I can feel myself evolving. I find myself taking a
deeper look inside of myself and asking the question:
Who Am I?
To answer this question I came to the understanding that I
am all of the parts of myself.
I am a yoga teacher
I am a Fitness instructor
I am a wife
I am a mother
I am a friend
I have learned that these parts do not define me, but
instead they create who I am as a whole. For months I have been trying to
search for a deeper understanding of myself without these parts. But then I
finally realized, I AM all of these parts. They do not necessarily define me and they are
not superficial. These parts help create the person that I am and I have come
to accept and love this person.
I have also learned
Who I AM NOT.
I am not my house
I am not how much money I have
I am not my clothes or my hair
I am not my physical body
I am not my work
I am not less than…..
I am not my problems/challenges
I am not my thoughts
In understanding the difference of what makes me whole and
what is superficial I have learned to accept the challenges that have been
presented to me. I find that I have a different perspective on everything.
These things are not happening TO ME, they are happening For ME. You see, they
are giving me the space to evolve out of my comfort zone. To learn to flow with
my journey without resistance.
I have learned that most of my problems are living in my
head. The worry, the anxiety and the longing. These thoughts keep me in a
perpetual loop of emotional instability. They rob me of the present moment.
I AM Not my thoughts.
Take a breath here. Think about that…
My thoughts do not define me. Once I finally realized that I
was living inside my head I started to let go. I began to see things past my
own thoughts. My world slowly began to open up and I started living and flowing
through these changes.
Are my life challenges still here? Absolutely, but I make a
conscious effort to not allow them to live in my head. When I find myself
worrying or filled with anxiety, I remind myself “I Am Not my thoughts. They do
not define me.”
This is a work in progress and some days are blissful and
without worry or anxiety and some days are harder. I am learning to be present
in each day as it comes and to forgive myself when my thoughts begin to
spiral. Letting go and acceptance takes
practice, just like the time I spend on my yoga mat.
There is something very satisfying about remodeling our homes. Even the smallest of changes can make our homes feel refreshed, shiny and bright. From new linens to paint, home improvements can help us to feel more content in our living space.
We have been busy the last few months remodeling our house. We mostly painted, but this required removing the wall paper and then dry-walling/texturing the walls. This project turned out to be a lot more work than we thought, but well worth it! This house was very dated with the interior colors being brown and 3 different shades of orange. But after a lot of hard work we finally got the dingy colors out. My husband Doug did all of the interior painting, including all of the trim. However, we hired out a guy to paint our kitchen cabinets, but we had to remove all of the shelf paper. Take a look !
This project of remodeling our house got me thinking about how we remodel ourselves. A new outfit, a new hair color, a new hair cut, a new workout routine to improve our physical self and even a new meditation practice to improve our spiritual self. These small improvements of ourselves help us to feel more content in our lives. How many times have you gotten a new hair style you loved and you felt like you could take on the world? How about the awesome outfit that made you feel sophisticated and in control of your life? What about that great yoga class that left you feeling completely blissed out and happy? These things may seem trivial in the scheme of life, but they help us to feel more content with our own being. Just like having our living spaces look nice helps us to feel content in our homes, feeling comfortable in our own being makes us feel happier and satisfied with our lives.
Taking the time for self improvement is a great pathway to contentment. And when we are content in our own being we are able to have better relationships. I know that when I do not feel content with myself I struggle with my relationships with others. I tend to worry about their opinions about me and then my mind begins to make up stories and scenarios. This all comes from being insecure. But when I take the time for self improvement I become more content with myself and my mind stops making up imaginary stories about my relationships. All of my insecurities dissipate. Have you ever stopped working out and just felt nasty and mean tempered? Or gotten a bad hair cut and felt like everyone was staring at you? On the flip side, have you ever stayed with your exercise routine and felt pride in yourself? Or started taking yoga/meditation and felt more peaceful and happier? Working out and meditation are forms of self improvement that help us feel better about ourselves thus improving our relationships.
Self improvement is not about being superficial- it is about taking care of the things you have and giving them a little remodel. Your remodel could be exterior like a new hair color , or internal like being more compassionate. Maybe you just need more down time so you can reconnect to yourself. I bet you can think of a few little things that you can improve on that would help you to feel more content.
So go ahead, remodel! You know you want to do it! With a little hard work and determination you can be the best version of yourself. That confident and happy person that shines bright.
A lot of wonderful things have happened this past month, so I will take a few moments here to give you the highlights.
My son graduated from UC Davis with a BS in Electrical Engineering.
The kids were here for Father’s Day and we had a really nice time hanging out with them.
I celebrated my 50th birthday. Cyndee surprised me by showing up to one of my classes! I had a great birthday and enjoyed spending it with my family and friends.
Our financial situation is looking better and we are back on track.
Cyndee and Chris both came up for the 4th of July. We watched the fireworks over the lake and enjoyed some much needed relaxation.
My daughter got a full-time teaching position and she is on track for a tenured position. She teaches English at a Jr. College in San Diego.
Doug is back to playing golf and is finding his rhythm with this bigger course.
I got a paddle board and I am enjoying the it on the lake. I also spend a lot of time at our pool.
Well that about catches you up! Here are a few pictures from this past month.
I have been finding myself in situations where I am being challenged by being out of my comfort zone. I have had to dig deep to find the courage to be in this space. I am very self conscious about my body and I finally got up the courage to switch my one piece swim suit to my bikini. I actually will take a dip in the pool without putting shorts and a tee shirt on over my swim suit. I am even starting to feel a little less self conscious when I hop out of the pool and walk back my lounge chair. I was inspired to try this by my mentor teacher Ashley. She posted a picture of herself in a swim suit and talked about accepting our bodies. She really helped me to step out of my tee shirt and shorts and accept my imperfect body in a bikini! Although I have yet to walk across the pool deck to the restrooms without my cover up , I still feel a sense of accomplishment! I still feel “naked” , shy and a bit vulnerable, but I am accepting these emotions as I learn to be out of comfort zone.
Another way I have been stepping out of my comfort zone is that I have been making decisions based on what I want to do. In the past if someone suggested I do something a certain way, or go somewhere I really did not want to go to, I would just say yes anyway. But lately, I have been really asking myself if I want to do these things. Does this make me happy? And if I feel obligated or forced to do something, I now know that it is not right for me. This is a big step for me. I am beginning to trust myself and my thought process. Sometimes I feel like I am standing out of my comfort zone and I wonder why am I standing here, it is so much safer over there. But as I keep practicing my truth I am beginning to feel empowered.
What things bring you out of your comfort zone? Did you know that by taking the step out of your zone you may actually find happiness? In my yoga classes this week I challenged my students to try different poses or to add an element to their poses. Most of the time we ended up laughing and just enjoying the newness of not being comfortable in the poses. But we all learned that we have a choice in everything that we do and that sometimes there is pure magic in trying something new.
We must remember to live life moment by moment and to get out of our heads so we can actually enjoy our lives! How many times has your joy been interrupted by self doubt, self consciousness, or fear of trying something new? Yoga teaches how to navigate our poses and breath on the mat and it also teaches us to navigate our life. It allows us the room to grow, explore, challenge, accept, embrace, fail, succeed, be humble and be kind.
Well, that’s it for now. I leave you with this thought. Our lives can be cut short unexpectedly. Why not take a chance and come out of your comfort zone to experience all the magic your life has to offer?
Our yoga community is deeply saddened by the passing of Maty Ezraty who’s teachings have been passed down in one way another to all yoga teachers. She was the heart and soul of yoga and her teachings will continue to inspire us all.
Well summer has begun and with that comes our busy schedules! This is the time of year for travel, spending time with family and enjoying the outdoors. I have been able to enjoy our community pool and I am loving it! This past month has been very active for us. We took a trip to So Cal, we have been working on the house and now we are preparing for our son’s college graduation celebration.
Our trip to So Cal was amazing! Both of us thoroughly enjoyed seeing our old tribe, friends and family! Our nephew’s high school graduation was very moving and the bonus, we got to see our daughter too! Doug visited our old house and golfed with a couple of his buddies. Additionally, we enjoyed a wonderful dinner and conversation with our extended family. We stayed with Cyndee and Chris and could not of asked for better hosts. We felt pampered and very relaxed staying with them. I already miss waking up to my coffee being made!
This week our son graduates form UC Davis. We are so proud of him! Our daughter and her fiance are flying up to celebrate along with Doug’s sister and her family. We will have a house full of family and love! The bonus for this celebration is that both of our kids will be home for Father’s day! If you have adult children you know hard this can be! I can’t remember the last time both kids were home for Fathers Day!
Doug has taken a break from golf and has been painting the interior of our house for a month. We ended up getting crazy deals on paint so we took the plunge. It looks absolutely stunning. I never knew how much changing the color of the walls could change the whole feel of the house. The orange/brown is gone and the new light grey /white makes our home feel so much calmer and settled. Doug gets the rockstar award for all of his hard work!
Many of you have expressed concern and compassion after my last post about our financial situation. So I thought i would give you an update on our financial bump in the road. Doug is still looking for a job and is keeping a positive attitude. The good news is that we had a solution that presented itself to us. Someone needed a place to live for a few months and we had an extra bedroom. So we decided to rent out our downstairs bedroom for about 4 months to one of my yoga students up here. Long story short we are helping each other out. She will be moving in at the end of this month and I am excited to hang out with her.
It is really strange the way things have been aligning for us. The timing of our painting the house, the timing of getting a roommate and the timing of me picking up special event classes and workshops have really helped to put our minds at ease. It comes down to trusting the process and letting go of trying to fix everything. The moment I surrendered to our situation and let go of trying to navigate it, things started moving in the right direction. We are not over the bump yet, but we can see over it now.
Unshakeable Trust Seal
This mudra represents unshakeable self-confidence, inner strength, and faith in something greater.
Sometimes we try too hard, push too hard for answers and solutions. Life is always going throw us bumps in the road. The lesson here is to trust the process. The next time you are faced with one of life’s challenges, try using the Unbreakable Trust Seal mudra. Just sit with your hands in place and breathe. Say the words ” i trust in the process. I trust myself. ” You may find yourself being presented with the direction you need to take.
Thank you all for sending so much love and support our way. I feel so honored to have so much love in So Cal and so much new love up here in Auburn.
To my So Cal friends, I look forward to seeing soon. I am hoping to plan another workshop in September of this year at Total Woman Gym. More on that next month….
P.S. I posted the playlist from the Gratitude Workshop. Click here to view it.
This past month has been filled with moments of pure realness in my life and I wanted to take this moment to be real with you. My life is far from perfect or ease. I have real struggles just like you. I have had many life altering changes in the last 6 months that have had profound effects on me. Moments where life taps you on the shoulder and says “Pay attention, I have something to teach you!”
I have been getting settled into my new home in Auburn. I am teaching a lot of classes and starting to acclimate to my new area. One of the things that has come up in my meditation is that I don’t feel like I am being completely real with all of you. I have had friends comment that I am “living the good life”. In some ways I am and in other ways it is down right stressful. You see, we have hit a bump in the road with our finances and so I am teaching as much as I can and Doug is looking for a full-time job. In dealing with this financial bump in the road I have had to dig deep to find gratitude in this situation. A big part of finding gratitude in my situation is honesty and Being Real. All of us have hardships and suffering. There is no need to pretend that everything is perfect. Whether it is health, or finances or family issues- all of us are going through something. It is during these difficult times that gratitude becomes even more important. When we feel gratitude for the simple things in our lives we are connected to the world outside of our problems. Thus, making our problems easier to cope with and we develop a sense of true realness in our lives.
‘ The more Grateful I am, the more my life is supported“- Deepak Chopra
So I remind myself everyday of the things I am grateful for and to cherish them all.
This past month my dear friend Cyndee came up for a short visit. She did the Arthritis Walk with me and we spent some quality time together. For this I am grateful.
This past month I had some wonderful new gym friends and my family come out to support me in the Arthritis Walk. For this I am grateful.
This past month my dear sweet ‘sister” Kirsti found out that she is cancer free! For this I am grateful.
This past month has blossomed with teaching jobs opening up for me. For this I am grateful.
This past month my husband has worked insanely hard removing the ugly orange paint and wall paper under it in our kitchen. For this I am grateful.
This past month the rain has finally stopped and I have sun filled days. For this I am grateful.
What are grateful in your life? The simple things. It is easy to be grateful when everything is going right in your life. But can you find gratitude even during the most difficult of times?
Now, on to up and coming news!
Next month I will be coming down to So Cal for a workshop and I will be staying at Cyndee’s house. I will be there on Thursday May 30 and heading home on Sunday June 2. Cyndee will be hosting an open house style “Meet & Greet” at her house on Friday May 31 from 4pm-6pm. Come on over for some conversation, coffee/ tea and cookies! I would love to see you and catch up! I hope to see you on this trip. If I don’t, you can always email me or call me.
I still have a few spaces left for my Gratitude Workshop on Saturday June 1 at Total Woman Gym. Click here for more details.
Have a beautiful day filled with gratitude. And remember to keep it real!
Last week I experienced a random act of kindness from a stranger. It moved me and reminded me that there a people in the world that truly care about one another.
So here’s what happened….
I was leaving the grocery store and when I got to my car I realized I could not find my cell phone. I quickly went back into the store to the checkout counter thinking I left it there. The cashier was very helpful and called the security to alert them and to check the video cameras to see if anyone walked off with it. ( I did not even know they do that!) Meanwhile, I retraced my steps and went all the way back to the deli. A woman there helped me look to see if i dropped it and offered to call it for me. I politely said no. You see, I realized I left my ringer off as I just came back from teaching a class. (A bad habit of mine!) I kept searching and people stopped to help me look. I had stepped back outside to look around and a woman stopped me.
She asked me “what are you looking for?”
I replied “my cell phone”
She replied ‘could that be it’? And pointed to underneath a car next to her.
I crouched down and looked. There was an object sitting next to the inside of the tire. Sure enough it was my phone just sitting there face up not a scratch or mark on it. I turned to the stranger and said ” Thank you so much’! And hugged her!
I left the grocery store with my heart warm and a deep gratitude for all of the people that helped me look for my phone. They were generally concerned and did not expect anything from me for their help.
With everything going on in the world today it is important to remember our connectedness to one another. We are all people living on the same planet, sharing the same air, finding our way on this journey of life. When we can pause our hurriedness, take time to help a stranger, we are reminded of this. The simplicity that everyone has struggles and kindness can go a long way. A simple smile can change a person’s day.
As you move through your day, take a moment to contemplate what kindness means to you. Where do you see it showing up in your life? How can you express kindness to others?
This past week has been filled with sunshine and warmer weather. The sun feels absolutely wonderful and the everything looks so vibrant! There is green all around me and clear blue skys. I feel like a veil has been lifted off of me and I can finally “see” things more clearly.
I did not realize how much the winter darkness and constant rain was affecting me. In addition to adjusting to the move I discovered that I was experiencing the Winter Blues. I was anxious, I had difficulty sleeping, I was depressed and irritable. I thought these symptoms were just a part of the adjustment phase of the move. But then the sun came out and my symptoms went away! I can think clearly again, I am more focused, I have more energy and most importantly, I feel like myself.
It is so interesting to me how nature affects us. Think about how a beautiful sunrise or sunset fills you with peace or how the sight and sounds of the ocean are simply soothing.
We process many sensations through our eyes. Visual awareness of our environment can have a profound affect on us. Taking advantage of small moments to simply gaze and absorb the beauty around us can soothe our souls. We begin to let go of the past and stop worrying about the future. This visual stimulation plants us into the present moment where we can stop the business of life and just breathe.
My friend from high school visited us last month and he brought us this beautiful bird bath. It looks great in our front yard. We are beginning to see things bloom in our yard. We have no idea what kinds of trees, plants and flowers we have. Every few days we see a new flower or a bud making it’s way out. It’s like a surprise and we are so excited to see what we have!
I had a request to show more of the outside of my house. I have serenity walking path just outside my patio door. Take a moment, breathe and enjoy the visual stimulation. I hope these videos let you pause for a moment and have some clarity in your life. Have a beautiful day!
Here are two video links with a tour of my the back of of my house .
I wanted to share with you all of the wonderful changes that I have experienced this month. But before I get to it, I wanted to share how I got here.
When I first moved I was trapped in my sadness and longing for my old life. I missed my friends, family, students, gym and yoga studio. I was anxious, scared and suffering deeply. I wanted my old life back.
Then something switched in my head. I was severely attached to my old life and I needed to let go of the past to step into the future. So I began making changes on my website. I deleted information about classes I no longer taught and deleted pages that were no longer relevant to my current life. Within minutes of making changes to my website I got a call about a teaching job. And so my new life began to unfold. Now I am teaching 8 classes a week at a couple of gyms!
After struggling to find a place to teach, I finally found a wonderful gym that welcomed me with open arms. I had actually joined this gym to have a place to workout and take classes and then an instructor left and I was hired. It all happened pretty fast! I love working here! The people are so nice and the classes are smaller because the studio is small. Its nice being able to get to know people. I am finally starting to feel like myself. I realized that teaching is a huge part of me and when I was not doing it I felt like a part of me was gone. Like I lost a limb. But now I am getting my groove back and my life is starting to feel normal. One of the new classes I am teaching is Silver Sneakers. I just got certified in this format and I am enjoying teaching it. I also teach a chair yoga class at our clubhouse and this class is packed with about 35 people every week! In this class the age range is 50 years old to 94! There are some students who come with their walkers or oxygen tanks, and other that have no physical issues. It’s amazing to witness them all together.
We discovered that we have a Cedrus deodara tree in our front yard! This is a Divine Tree and we can also see this it from our living room. It is amazing to me that I have such a sacred tree that I can see from both inside and outside of my house. Our house is surrounded by a ton of beautiful trees. It is like living in the forest! Its very peaceful and quiet. It is so quiet that we have been sleeping in until 8 or 9am! It has actually been hard for me to get to an 8 am class. LOL!
Here is some information about our divine tree. It is a species of cedar native to the western Himalayas in Eastern Afghanistan, Northern Pakistan and India. “The botanical name, which is also the English common name, derives from the Sanskrit term devadāru, which means “wood of the gods”, a compound of deva “god” and dāru“wood and tree. Among Hindus, it is worshiped as a divine tree. Forests full of Deodar or Devadāru trees were the favorite living place of ancient Indian sages and their families who were devoted to the Hindu god Shiva. To please Lord Shiva, the sages used to perform very difficult meditation practices in deodar forests. Also the ancient Hindu epics and Shaivite texts regularly mention Darukavana, meaning a forest of deodars, as a sacred place.” https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cedrus_deodara
My internet is very slow right now, Unfortunately I cannot do videos that are longer than a minute or so. We hope to get a new internet service soon. For now, I have learned how to do live chat through Facebook and Duo. Duo is the app I use on my Samsung phone that is similar to Face-time on the Iphone. If you have an Iphone you can download the Duo app. I actually did a private lesson over Duo with a client from So Cal. It was great! So if you want to chat face to face let me know! I would love to see you!
We celebrated my husband’s 50th birthday last month. My daughter and her fiance surprised Doug by taking a trip up here to visit him. He was totally shocked when she just showed up at the house! It was the best! Here are a bunch of pictures from our celebration.
Well that’s about everything that has happened this month! It has been a busy month. I leave you with the reminder to accept life’s challenges, to celebrate life as often as possible, and to live life at the fullest. I am learning to accept all these changes in my life and to go day by day. And as much as I miss my old life, I am opening myself to my new life.
“In the end these things matter the most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did you let go?”- Buddha