Toni Kuhn

March 15, 2017
by Toni
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Letting Go Part 3

This week we move on to part three of learning to let go of things that restrict our mental freedom. Number 6 has really resonated with me this week. As I started to pay close attention to my thought process I noticed I seem to “create” or “replay” scenarios over and over. Part of this hamster wheel of thoughts is due to my need to please everyone. I tend to blame myself for other people’s feelings or actions and then I start to criticize and harshly judge myself. Sound familiar? As you can see the previous items on the list of the “things to let go” are intertwined and they often initiate each other. But remember, this is a process and the first step is awareness. We all have had these thoughts at one time or another. Just keep trying to be the best version of yourself everyday. Breathe and let go.


5. I’ve let go of judging.

I know that everyone is on their own journey, and my job is to focus on my own. I also know that each time I am judgmental with people, I’m reacting to something that bothers me about myself. If I believe you are mean, it means I can also be mean; how could I see that in you, otherwise?

“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgment gives you the power to change them.” ~Byron Katie


6. I’ve let go of making assumptions about what other people feel, want, or think.

I am not them, so there’s no way to know what they’re feeling and thinking.

I stopped making up imaginary scenarios and letting my mind play with me. Each time I find myself disturbed by what people do or say, I know it’s time for a reality check.

From “The Work” of Byron Katie, I’ve learned to examine the thoughts that trouble me and ask myself: “Is that true?” Many of my assumptions likely aren’t. For example, I might assume someone doesn’t like me, when really she’s just having a bad day. Or maybe she’s just shy. Not everyone is the same.

The moment I realize I can’t know what this person thinks, simply because I am not her, my mind gets clear and I am able to meet her with an open heart.

“I found that my unquestioned assumptions were the cause of all war and all peace in my world.” ~Byron Katie

March 8, 2017
by Toni

Letting Go Part 2

This week I continued to read excerpts  from an article “10 Things I’ve Let Go and How This has Set me Free” by Sara Fabia. We discussed letting go of self- criticism and blaming. These portions of the article are at the bottom of this post.

If you are looking to deepen your yoga practice and explore the Niyamas – “right living with our inner minds and thoughts”, check out my schedule of yoga retreats. 2017 Yoga Retreat Schedule.

For more information about my yoga retreats click on the icon at the top of this page.

I hope you enjoy today’s reading and that you have gained some tools to develop your own personal freedom.



  1. I’ve let go of self-criticism.

I pay attention to my inner talk; I don’t call myself names, and I treat myself with dignity and respect. I stopped telling myself things I would never tell a good friend. I am enough, whole, and complete.

I have come to understand that in life, we don’t get what we want. We get what we think we deserve. That’s why it’s necessary to believe in ourselves and see ourselves as enough and worthy of the best things life has to offer.

“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ~Louise Hay

  1. I’ve let go of blaming.

I now know that each time I blame someone else, I am making myself a victim. Blaming others for taking my time, my money, or my love is unfair, because I always choose how much I give and to whom. No one can hurt me or upset me without my conscious (and often unconscious) consent.

Instead, I now take responsibility for the way I feel, act, and think. I am in charge of my actions, and I know my future is the result of my current choices. I am what I believe and whatever I choose to be.

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, it will not change you. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” ~Wayne Dyer

March 1, 2017
by Toni

Letting Go Part 1

This week in my yoga classes I read excerpts  from an article “10 Things I’ve Let Go and How This has Set me Free” by Sara Fabia. I read the first 2 things and I got an overwhelming response, so I thought I would share it with you. I will post the next two next week. I hope you enjoy these tips.

Yoga Retreat Update:

I have received a lot of reservations for my yoga retreats. Both May & June are half way filled up. Be sure to reserve your spot early! Here is the June flier. June 10 Yoga Retreat


  1. I’ve let go of the need to be perfect.

I am perfectly beautiful and beautifully imperfect, and this is what allows me to be me.

Perfection is an illusion—it doesn’t exist. I stopped stressing myself out trying to be perfect and now I am always aiming for “good enough.” I have learned to embrace my mistakes as much needed opportunities for growth, blessings in disguise that make me wiser. If I fail at anything, it doesn’t mean I’m a failure, because I am not what I do. Sometimes we win, sometimes we learn. We never lose.

“Your best is going to change from moment to moment: it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.” ~Don Miguel Ruiz 

  1. I’ve let go of the need to be busy all the time.

Being in a rush isn’t a sign of virtue. I have learned to listen to my body, and I no longer feel guilty for doing nothing. I know I sometimes need to recharge the batteries of my body and soul, and I don’t feel like I owe anyone any explanation for doing that.

If I don’t have time for myself, I make it. Watching a good movie, listening to relaxing music, reading a good book, singing, taking a walk to connect with nature—I do whatever makes my heart sing.

“I am a human being, not a human doing. Don’t equate your self-worth with how well you do things in life. You aren’t what you do. If you are what you do, then when you don’t…you aren’t.” ~Dr. Wayne Dyer 

February 11, 2017
by Toni
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Life Is Why

In honor of National Heart Month, I am going to share some facts about heart attacks in women. You see, many women have undiagnosed heart disease because many of their symptoms are not the same as what you see on TV or read about. Women can have what appears to be indigestion or anxiety and it turns out to be heart disease or even a heart attack.  The key to having a  healthy heart is to be educated, reduce stress, exercise, eat healthy and know your family history.

Here is some information from Go Red For Women which is part of the American Heart Association.

It’s true: Heart disease is the No. 1 killer in women. Yet, only 1 in 5 American women believe that heart disease is her greatest health threat.

Take Amy Heinl, for example, an avid marathon runner and fitness devotee. Heart disease was the furthest thing from her mind – until she collapsed during an early-morning workout. A diagnosis of heart disease followed, and it took her completely by surprise.

“I really couldn’t believe this happened to me,” Amy says. “I thought of myself as a healthy person, and I was exercising when it happened. I truly believed I had pulled a muscle.” Which is why her friend called 9-1-1, not Amy.

The truth is, women are less likely to call 9-1-1 when experiencing symptoms of a heart attack themselves. It simply doesn’t occur to them to do so. And why would it? The bulk of media attention on the disease is focused on men.

Here are more unsettling facts:

  • Heart disease causes 1 in 3 women’s deaths each year, killing approximately one woman every minute.
  • 90 percent of women have one or more risk factors for developing heart disease.
  • Since 1984, more women than men have died each year from heart disease and the gap between men and women’s survival continues to widen.
  • The symptoms of heart disease can be different in women vs. men, and are often misunderstood.
  • While 1 in 31 American women dies from breast cancer each year, 1 in 3 dies of heart disease.

How can I prevent it?

Many things can put you at risk for these problems – one’s you can control, and others that you can’t. But the key takeaway is that with the right information, education and care, heart disease in women can be treated, prevented and even ended.

Studies show that healthy choices have resulted in 330 fewer women dying from heart disease per day. Here are a few lifestyle changes you should make:

January 19, 2017
by Toni

Work Addict

work2Today is another snow day for me and I am unable to head down to SCV to teach my classes. Instead of feeling free and happy, I am filled with guilt for taking the day off. My name is Toni and I am a work addict! I know this sounds completely opposite of what a yoga teacher should be feeling, but truth is, I really am a work addict.

I took a quiz, so it’s true! LOL!

So what do I do now that I know the truth? I start by allowing myself to acknowledge this new information without judgment and to let go of the guilt of not being able to fulfill my commitments. Who-ya! That’s a lot to start with!

Here are a few things that I learned from my quiz.

  1. I try to fill as much of my time with work. If I am not teaching I am working on teaching, answering emails, billing, making fliers or thinking about what I should be doing.
  2. When I am home I am peppered with quick calls, emails or text about my work. There is always someone or something that needs my attention and that can’t wait. ( in my head)
  3. During my leisure activities, I am plagued by guilt when I am not working.

So what do I do with this knowledge about myself? I start by forgiving myself. Then by taking a good look inside myself to find the root of my problem. I asked myself the hard questions; Is this about my ego? My self esteem or self worth? Is it fear? Is is money? It turns out that none of these are the reason I am addicted to my work. It is my deep rooted sense of commitment to others. I put others before myself because I want to help and heal people. I put other peoples happiness before my own. Who-ya again! This is a lot to take in. What this really says is that I am addicted to helping others, which is the very nature of being a yoga teacher.

( Deep breath here)

So how do I continue being a yoga teacher without compromising  myself? I think the answer to this question starts again with my awareness. Now that I know the truth about myself, I must separate my work from myself.  I am going to start by creating a more structured work schedule. For example, setting specific times to answer emails , texts and inquiries. No longer will I get up from dinner to do these things, or worse, do them while I eat! Nor will I keep answering them after dinner and cut into my time with my husband. These steps sound obvious and simple, but they will be a challenge for me.

35001ae9f1636ad03200d9db180ea084So my first step of action is to take the day off! I am going to spend time with husband, enjoy the snow- without guilt.

It will be a work in progress, but I am ready to start!

One moment at a time. One step at a time.




December 23, 2016
by Toni

Merry Christmas

1929921780-zen_christmas_wreath_greeting_cards_pk_of_20”I offer you peace. I offer you love. I offer you friendship. I see your beauty. I hear your need. I feel your feelings. My wisdom flows from the Highest Source. I salute that Source in you. Let us work together for unity and love.” ~ Gandhi

I love this quote, especially at this time of year.  It serves to remind all of us that we must recognize each other, respect each other and love one another. This week I was reminded of how kind people can be. We have had some rainy/snowy weather and many of my friends checked to make sure I was safe. I was touched that during this busy time of year they took the time to check in with me. This simple act  rejuvenated my faith in humanity. These past few months has been filled turmoil between the news media and all the violence that it has been difficult for me to feel this faith. But today, I woke up full of peace, love, and joy that I thought I would share it- exchange it with you.

Let us take a moment to pause today and feel gratitude for all that is good in our lives and to remember that peace begins within our selves. “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” ~ Gandhi



Merry Christmas!



November 2, 2016
by Toni

My Yin Experience

event_163610532I have completed my Yin Yoga teacher training and I feel as if a door has been opened that invites me to be more creative in my teaching. Yin Yoga is a very genuine way to practice and allows the student to become the teacher. The student is encouraged to explore the Yin Yoga poses without any boundaries or borders. To bring the pose into their body without the stress of looking a certain way or performing the pose.

I can honestly say that my life has changed with this practice. I feel so liberated and safe in this practice. Judgement, stereotypes, body types, fitness level and age cease to exist in Yin Yoga. In a Yin class, each of us is given the freedom to explore the poses in our own body , to make any adjustments and to let go that part of our ego that compares us to others. Yes, this concept is taught in all other styles of yoga, it is just easier to actually do it in a Yin class.  I find that I simply feel safe, grounded and content; as if my mind can finally let go of all the chatter that keeps me from being my authentic self.

Yin Yoga is a class designed to hold poses anywhere from one to five minutes. The poses are done on the floor and props are encouraged to help the student relax in the pose. The poses are stretches that are designed to get deep into the body and to help the student find a quiet place of stillness. It is in holding the body still that the muscles relax enough so that gravity becomes the resistance. We surrender and use gravity to melt us into the poses. The result is a soft, luscious feeling in the body and a relaxed, calm mind.

If you are interested in trying a Yin class click on the link for my schedule and see where I am teaching it. I would love to see you in a class! It is truly a Yinlicious experience!



September 20, 2016
by Toni


HOPE is such a powerful word. It has so many layers and means something different for everyone. My theme for my yoga retreat last Saturday was hope. We explored different meanings, different sources, and our own personal relationship to hope.

Here are just a few meanings we explored.

HOPE   “the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best”.- the dictionary

HOPE ” is a waking dream”- Aristotle

HOPE “is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today”. – Thich Nhat Hanh

HOPE unites us and is something all of us can relate to. – Toni


What dos HOPE mean to you? Don’t expect a concrete answer to this question. Instead, explore hope with your heart, and simply allow yourself to feel it. We need hope. It’s something that opens us up to the world around us and connects us to each other.

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August 28, 2016
by Toni

I have been nominated….

Good Morning!

I am so honored and humbled.
I just found out that I have been nominated in the SCV Elite Magazine for “Ultimate Female Fitness Professional”. I am absolutely amazed that I was nominated. This came at a perfect time for me. I have been struggling with an arthritic flare up and I am in physical therapy for my shoulder. I have been grounded from all physical activity for my upper body. The good news, is that I am healing and the pain is getting better. I hope to get back on my yoga mat soon!  Being nominated for this award really lifted my spirits! Thank you to whoever nominated me.

There are a ton of categories and some amazing women are listed. If you would like to vote here are the instructions.
1. go to
2. Scroll down and vote in each category. There are 5 pages and I am on the last page. You must vote in each category to get to page 5.

You can vote once every 24 hours.

• Voting Closes at noon on Monday, September 19th, 2016

On another note, I have two more yoga retreats this year. It has been a wonderful season and I have enjoyed sharing my home with some incredible yogis! My September retreat is sold out, but I do have a few spots open for my October retreat. Here is the link to the flier. October 15 Retreat Flier
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.
Love & Light